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I’m not pushy, sex doesn’t have to lead to orgasm, anyone can stop at any time. It’s my nature to practice all that without thinking about it.
But recently my partner stopped sex partway through and I’ve felt very rejected and depressed since. There were a few simple reasons given, which is what makes it feel weird to me. It felt like they were looking for a justification to stop. That left this awkward period where I was fully exposed while they were looking for an excuse to get out of the situation.
I’m mortified, embarrassed and feeling really humiliated. Feels very gross to know my presence in that way, in that moment, needed to be strategized away from. On top of that, there’s a lot of rejection at play. Making matters worse, a simple prank left me really freaked out and feeling emasculated the night before—and I’m not even a toxically masculine type of guy! I just felt really embarrassed then, and the sex thing carries extra weight because of it.
A direct reason would have been fine. I’d never hold that against anyone. I’ve said plenty of times that it’s just not happening or I’m too tired to keep going. But the vague reasons has me wondering if there’s something I’m not aware of or something more serious going on.
All in all, I’ve felt really anxious and depressed since this happened. I’m embarrassed to see my partner because I don’t know what caused this. I also don’t want to put any impetus on them to cater to my needs when they are fully in their right to support their own in that moment. I don’t want to blame, shame or guilt them for not doing anything wrong. I just don’t want to linger away from them long enough that they start to wonder what’s going on in my end.
Where do I begin to unpack these complex feelings?
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But recently my partner stopped sex partway through and I’ve felt very rejected and depressed since. There were a few simple reasons given, which is what makes it feel weird to me. It felt like they were looking for a justification to stop. That left this awkward period where I was fully exposed while they were looking for an excuse to get out of the situation.
I’m mortified, embarrassed and feeling really humiliated. Feels very gross to know my presence in that way, in that moment, needed to be strategized away from. On top of that, there’s a lot of rejection at play. Making matters worse, a simple prank left me really freaked out and feeling emasculated the night before—and I’m not even a toxically masculine type of guy! I just felt really embarrassed then, and the sex thing carries extra weight because of it.
A direct reason would have been fine. I’d never hold that against anyone. I’ve said plenty of times that it’s just not happening or I’m too tired to keep going. But the vague reasons has me wondering if there’s something I’m not aware of or something more serious going on.
All in all, I’ve felt really anxious and depressed since this happened. I’m embarrassed to see my partner because I don’t know what caused this. I also don’t want to put any impetus on them to cater to my needs when they are fully in their right to support their own in that moment. I don’t want to blame, shame or guilt them for not doing anything wrong. I just don’t want to linger away from them long enough that they start to wonder what’s going on in my end.
Where do I begin to unpack these complex feelings?
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